10 signs You're being to nice

There is a fine line between being nice, and being TOO nice. I have developed a list of things that tend to happen when you cross the line to step into the too nice realm.

1. You apologize for things that aren’t your fault. 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said “sorry” to someone who has shoulder checked me because they weren’t paying attention while they were walking. Saying sorry is a way of admitting you did something wrong. 

2. You work WAY too much. 

I get it, some people are workaholics. I know I am. You burn yourself out at work: volunteering for extra shifts, covering for other people, taking on way too many tasks, etc. The problem is that you load so much on to that little plate of yours, that you can’t keep up. Next thing you know you’re pulling an all-nighter with 18 cups off coffee and 20 lines of cocaine. And come on you’re better than that, you know that much coffee is bad for you!

3. You have stalkers. 

You have this “too nice” aura about you. Everybody wants to talk to you, particularly the creepy weird people. It would be rude not to talk back, right? Next thing you know your BFFs with an ex-inmate who has tear drops tattooed all down his face.

4. Your trust-o-meter is broken. 

You trust EVERYBODY. Hmm today I think i’ll leave my car and house unlocked. My purse is sitting in the driver’s seat with hundred dolla dolla bills sticking out of it. But that’s okay… No one will steal it.

5. You’re new shirt bears a striking resemblance to a doormat. Let’s face it, people walk all over you. They know you will do whatever they ask you to do, so they take full advantage of that.

6. You never ask for help. Sure, people can ask you for favors all the time. But when it comes to you asking for a favor in return? Forget about it! You think you can handle everything on your own, and then you end up a big stress ball.

7. Making a decision is by far one of the hardest tasks. Where do you want to eat? I don’t care.. where do you want to eat? I asked you first! My god, try having this conversation with two indecisive people. You’re too nice so you don’t want to pick something that the other person might not like. You will probably eat something you hate if they suggest it, because you don’t want to feel bad for telling them you don’t like it.

8. You might as well change your name to Dr. Phil. There is no better listener out there than you. You can listen to people bitch about their lives all day. At the same time, you feel bad when you complain about anything. You don’t want to burden others with your problems, so you keep them to yourself.

9. You are awkward with compliments. God forbid somebody tells you that you look nice or they like your outfit. You don’t want to deny it, because you know how annoying it is when you have to consistently reinforce a compliment you give to someone else. You don’t want to say thanks because then you’re accepting what they are saying, and that would be vain.

10. Forget about getting someone to like you. Generally speaking, people are attracted to assholes. Nice guys (and girls) often finish last. I’m a true believer that you have to be a smartass to hook somebody. Instead, you are way too nice, so you end up talking to the creep at the bar all night long (you feel bad walking away, naturally) while all the stud muffins pair up with bitches.

I would rather be too nice than be a beyotch. But at the same time, us nice folk have to figure out when we are being TOO nice. We aren’t doormats and we shouldn’t be treated like one. Sometimes you have to be a hard ass to get what you want in life.

“The difference is too nice – Where ends the virtue or begins the vice.” – Alexander Pope

------YOUR WELLWISHERS----

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Our parents gets older as we are busy in our Lives.

THIS ARTICLES IS HEART TOUCHING. I CAN'T RESIST SHARING THIS WITH YOU PEOPLE.

Our parents are getting older. With each passing day, they are hitting senescence while we are busy in our own lives, trying to make some sense out of it. 

We all really care about our parents, I mean did you see your Facebook timeline on Mother's Day? It was beautiful, to be honest. But the question is - do we really care for our parents beyond social media? Do we care about their needs and the sacrifices they have made for us (and still do) over so many years? Do we care about how they feel and what they fear?

Here are a few heartbreaking short tales from parents to their kids. Read them with an open heart and absorb every word of it. 

 #copied

YOUR WELLWISHERS !!

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Secret of Happiness! World's happiest man reveals it.

Happiness might have a different meaning for different people but what's common between us all is that we're all in our own pursuit of happiness. But the chaos that life has become today and cut-throat competition, can we achieve it with the way we lead our life?

Well, would you like to take some tips from the world's happiest man?

Matthieu Ricard, originally from France, is a monk who resides in Nepal and is called the world's happiest man.

Source: ted.com

Wondering how scientists concluded that Ricard was indeed the happiest man in the world?

Neuroscientist Richard Davidson attached 256 sensors to the monk's body as he meditated. It was observed that the level of gamma waves produced in Ricard's brain, which is associated to consciousness, attention, learning and memory, was something that had never been reported before.

In the words of Davidson: 

The scans also showed excessive activity in his brain’s left prefrontal cortex compared to its right counterpart, allowing him an abnormally large capacity for happiness and a reduced propensity towards negativity.

Source: gq.com

So what is the ultimate path to happiness?

Ricard, who doesn't like to be called the world's happiest man, believes that practising altruism and selflessness can lead one to be happy in life. He also says that a person should train his mind by thinking happy thoughts for 15 minutes every day. But the one secret to being truly happy is to not indulge in comparison with others. 

In the words of the enlightened man:

Comparison is the killer of happiness. We don't compare ourselves with Bill Gates but with our neighbors. Good for them. But why do you need it?

Note it down, kids! 

YOUR WELLWISHERS !!

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Three types of LOVE !

It dawned on me on a Sunday morning, as I lay awake in my bed…alone. I had woken up surprisingly early that morning; and sleep never came back to me. The level of alertness that I was astounded me to an extent. I had been going over my life the past few years. It had been anything but boring. The people I'd met; the places I'd been—in my head and on the map—it had culminated in that Sunday morning. 

I remembered the first time I had ever loved someone who wasn't my friend, or family, or pet. I remembered the first time someone who wasn't my friend, family, or pet, loved me back. It was a very interesting thought. It made me realize something that day… 

That there are, essentially, three different kinds of love.

Here's how I characterised them. 

1. The First 

It's the irrevocable kind of love. It hits you and it hits you hard. It's like a gun to your head and a bullet to your brain. You're shot; you're wounded and only one person can ever heal you. It's like being made aware of your own existence. It makes you realize that you could feel so much; you didn't even know you had so many emotions in you. You didn't know you could feel the things you feel right now, before this moment; this person. It's new. You're new. The world around you is new. You've been born for love. And so, you hold this person's hand and stir up a storm; throwing caution to the wind, the earth and the fire. You'll light up together and burn everything in your path even if it means you'll illuminate each other's hearts. It's you and it's them and no one and nothing else matters. You could create a world of your own, start a war with the world because you know you have this person and this person has you. You're so blinded by their love that you block out all other feelings; all other realities. All you see is them; all they see is you. You're a mirror staring into a mirror.

And then, the very storm you stirred up, uproots you. The fire you started burns your soul. The war you fought leaves you shattered and worn. Suddenly, the realities come crashing down and you realize that you're holding a grenade. The gun goes off; the bullet gets out the other side of your brain and you're falling to the ground… all by yourself. You're crashing against the waves of the ocean and you're drowning in the sea. You reach out to gasp for air but you're suffocating and choking. 

This is the kind of love that shows you can feel—in ways you thought were unimaginable. This is the love that shows you can hurt in ways that could break your heart into a million different pieces. Your heartbeat is never the same again. Your mirror is broken. And so are you. 

2. The Second 

 It's the careful kind of love. You're getting back up again; dusting the past off… with a little help. Someone walked past you and noticed you, fallen; struggling to get back up. They offered you their hand; so, you took it. They helped you back up. You learned to walk again; sure, there's a limp in your walk; the bounce is missing. But, hey, you're walking again. All thanks to this person. They're always there, by your side. They offer you a shoulder to cry on; they give you their hand to hold. They hold you when you're shaking and they carry you when it gets tough. They'll smile to show you that there's still hope. They'll even wipe away the tears. They become your walking stick, your pillow to sleep and your blanket in the winter. They warm you in the cold and they shelter you from the rain. They know you're not ready to get back out again; so they'll go out there for you. They'll stand in the rain for you. They'll carry your burdens for you, hoping and waiting that you'll share the load one day. They'll wait. They'll show you that you can still feel good; that all is not lost; that love still exists for you. All you have to do is reach out. 

You'll learn to feel again, for the first time in a very long time. And so, you'll confuse that good feeling with love. You'll substitute it with love. Because they love you back. Because. This love will have a reason. You will love them because. They become your comfort zone because you're too scared to accept that you're too wounded to go back out in the real world. You're comfortable because they're convenient. They're your trampoline; your buffer; your sojourn. There will be reason to your love. And that's when you'll know; it's never really love. 

3. The Final 

It's the kind of love that makes you realize why the first kind never worked out because you were blindsided; the second wouldn't work because it was a backup. This kind of love comes when you've fallen, and bounced back up; when you've grown into the person you were meant to be so you could meet the person it was truly meant to be. You've hurt in every way that you could and you've healed. But, you've learned to heal others along the way, too. You've been broken and bent; but you've put yourself together again. You've been scarred; but you're done hiding them. They see the hurt; they see the scars. They show you theirs. They touch you in ways that you've never been touched; not just physically, but, mentally. They really see you and then, they see through you—all the facades you've been putting on, all the walls you've been building up come crashing down. They don't wait for you to come to them. They demand you to meet them half way. They'll open you up like a book they've been waiting for all their lives. 

From the first time you see each other, you know there was a reason why you went through life the way that you did. The broken roads led you to one another. The first and second kinds prepare you for this kind of love. And when you get it, it's about loving unconditionally. It's not about stirring up a storm, lighting up a fire, ro starting up a war. It's about facing the storm together, even when you're in the eye of it. It's about igniting each the spark for each other and taming the wildfires. It's about winning battles together and fighting each other's demons. Yes, you will still fall. But you will never hit the bottom. You will fall; but only to rise together. It will be like standing at the edge of the cliff, knowing that you're rooted to your spot, as long as you've got each other. It's about riding on the waves and swimming the seven seas. It's about loving, holding on and never letting go. It's about fighting and making up. It's about untying one another from the chains, yet not leaving each other.  

That's the kind of love you want to wait for. It comes later than ever. And it will never come easy. But, when it comes, it comes to stay forever. It may not come at the time you want; but it will come when the time is right.

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Dunya Ka Khush Tareen Mulk.

Prosperity

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LEVEL: Quad-e-Azam

  گاندھی نے جناح سے پوچھا کہ " میں کانگریس جیسی بڑی جماعت کا لیڈر ہو کر بھی ٹرین کی تھرڈ کلاس میں سفر کرتا ہو اور آپ مسلم لیگ جیسی چھوٹی جماعت کے لیڈر ہو کر فرسٹ کلاس میں ؟"جناح بولے " گاندھی جی میں اپنی ذاتی جیب سے خرچ کرتا ہوں اور آپ پارٹی فنڈ سے ۔"

Ghandi ne Jinnah se poocha k "Me Congress jesi bari Jamaat ka Leader ho kar bhi Train ki third class me safar karta hu aur Aap Muslim League jesi choti Jamaat kay Leader ho kar First class main?" 

Jinnah Bole "Main apni zaati jeb se kharch karta hu aur Aap Party fund se."  BOOMM!!

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